Sioux wrote on Feb 1
st, 2011 at 8:18am:
Edith Grove wrote on Jan 31
st, 2011 at 6:38pm:
Honky Tonk Man wrote on Jan 31
st, 2011 at 5:09pm:
What I don't get is Keith's bitching about Brian in the early years, when the pair were surely getting on.
I remember a Keith interview that mentions Brian was holding out a little extra money for himself as "leader" of the band.
Keith said something like "that was the beginning of Brian's falling out" when it was discovered what Brian was doing.
I know, but we've heard all this before. I understand how difficult Brian could be. But, in the beginning...and a couple of times after that, it was Keith and Brian closer-than-this and Mick feeling left out. And if you look at interviews with Keith not long after Brian died, he sounds sad, melancholic....not always saying "Hey Brian was a great guy" and stuff, but not bashing him and minimizing his importance {he founded the band, fer goodness sake!} and his musical abilities. It all now just sounds like comments of a bitter, grumpy, maybe jealous/guilty in a way? 67 year old guy.....it's sad, cuz I think, over the years, Keith has convinced himself he feels this way...
I think sometimes people get mad at people they're angry at for dying before they could have some closure on their relationship, and thus as the years go by it intensifies whatever bad feelings were there when the person died.
For example...My grandparents separated bitterly in 1968 cause my grandpa had cheated and they were in court for the next few years. My grandpa suffered a moderate (but not disabling in any way) stroke in 1973 and was forced (due to lack of money/anyplace else to live) to move back into my grandmother's house, but they didn't and never got back together; he just lived there because he had nowhere else to go. It was an odd environment since my grandmother's boyfriend (step-grandpa) also lived in the house at the same time, as did my mother and aunt.
While before their break up they had had vicious fights, and had deep bitterness between them due to their break up in '68, they were very civil in this period post 1973, my grandmother would even do favors for him like cashing his checks for him and even defend him when my aunt would act nasty toward him, but they never talked much otherwise. My grandpa died suddenly in 1975, two years after moving back home, and my grandmother is much more bitter and hateful toward him now with him long gone than she ever was when he was alive...Almost like she's mad at him for dying without them ever having closure and probably with a lot of questions she had unanswered and without her being able to make peace and say things she might've wanted to say.