Pdog wrote on Sep 26
th, 2009 at 3:24pm:
much easier to judge others, than discern the truth of ourselves!!!
A much-needed response to this thread....
Thanks P-dog for that POV.
I have never experience incest or abuse of any kind, but have known victims of child abuse (not sexual)..and know how the tables turn on them once they begin to tell the truth about what happened to them. I have a much older cousin who has been a family pariah for my whole life because she claims her father was abusive, but the family, my family shunned her.....she has also battled emotional issues, drug addictions and the family throws that in her face ..
'well, you can't believe anything she says, she's crazy..' etc.
and i always wonder...'but what if she's not lying...'
the family doesn't want to believe it, so she's
out.... happens all the time to victims of incest of any abuse.
they live witht the shame, guilt and then the fear of no one, especially family members, not believing them, labeling them liars etc..
but isn't that the natural response for many people?
i would rather not believe that the guy who wrote Monday, Monday could do something like this, but to just completely demonize MP's accusation seems unfair and reactionary to me.
after all, isn't part of the healing process to unleash those horrible secrets?
again, thank you P-dog for that perspective.....
we need to think before we point a finger.